There are questions that we send all of us several times during our lives. The classic questions about the meaning of life: "Why are we here", "what is the purpose of our lives," "what is love", "what comes after death," "God exists?", Etc. .... to any of these I already given my personal answer, I do not care to give it another qulche, and others are still looking for answers! Lately I'm focusing in particular on what concerns the "scope" of my life.
I always put many goals and many goals to be achieved, sometimes succeeding and some other not. But I never raised the issue of having a kind of "purpose" for considering my successful life. One thing I always kept a lot was to be able to establish myself in a professional field in order to live a life without too much hardship or deprivation. One of my main goals has always been to try to earn as much as possible to avoid having to say no too many times in front of my desires.
Unfortunately this is not very successful! But with 35 years, I hope to have more time to recover.
Another of my "goals" was to find a woman to love with all my might, he knew and wanted to reciprocate this feeling, to live a full life and full of emotions, but even here I find myself always in 35 years (from a few lines above are not even old!) single! I have had important stories to the shoulders, finished more or less bad, spent .... Never mind ....
Fortunately I have many friends and girlfriends and with them, since they do not talk about football or gossip, we are designed to address the speeches that, in spite of myself, I bring before the fact. Constricting me a bit 'to sum up these past years. Many of them are married, some have children and often wonder about their lives, to try to understand a bit 'more of mine!
So at first sight with what I have said so far, it seems that my life has been quite a failure! In some ways it was. But not completely. Surely I could do things very differently, but if anyone thinks they can always make the right choices throughout his life, I'd be curious to know prorpio, because I would absolutely explain how he did!
One thing I realized is that all those who were married and had children is that they have become practically the end of their lives! Talking to a guy, who told me that if he had imagined her life without children, would be a life without a true purpose.
As I think is very clear, I have no children, and never have I wanted, and then in front of all these statements I am always very puzzled.
friend told me that his dream had always been to have a family, preferably large, with two or three children. That day I had a sort of discussion with this person, because I just could not understand how anyone could want so something like that, not knowing what life would you put in your way.
I look at the experiences of my friends, I ask questions, I try to understand. And the more wonder and captures the stories of other people's lives, the more I realize how different my view of things.
I understand to be very different from most people, I do not care to much "me a family." Because of my age, I often say I should think to settle down as time goes by ... but to me this is a very relative concept! I feel settled if I earned a lot of money!
those holy women of my mother often says "you have 35 years! Want to decide to put down? "and I promptly replied:" NO! "and not because they want to, but simply because my head is already in place!
My father has never considered what I did, than tried to give me some advice.
The fact is that we have very different viewpoints. I do not feel any need to have children, I see them as a task too heavy for my existence. Instead I want more than anything else, a woman whom I could spend. Just for all that they told me my friends, I realized that the children become a major impediment to my desire, they inevitably focus on them all the attention of both parents, most are no longer husband and wife, but mainly mum and dad.
It happened to me with a wonderful person to spend unforgettable moments. Really live what for many remains a dream for a lifetime! Thinking back on this experience, I realized that the presence of filgi, would make these things, the most unique and rare events and I realized that what I would I would dedicate myself exclusively to the person I love! And you can enjoy the moments and days like those, not a rarity, but as the everyday.
Then is normal that not everything is always beautiful and happy, there are also gray days, sometimes even blacks! I know, God forbid! I'm weird, not stupid!
I realize that this is by no means simple, especially because it is not so easy to find a woman who does not want to have kids. To be honest I had also found, and things would also have gone to great really because we had so many things in common, but .... But that's another story that would require pages and pages to be told!
Talking with my friends, most of them told me that the "start a family," has always been what they wanted, their purpose. Someone else told me that when you are married, did not pass xl'anticamera even their brain to their children, and now have two!
I since I was a teenager, I never felt very led to the family, I must say that in recent years I have enjoyed greatly, but I also did some nice sacrifices.
Now I struggle to understand how things are.
I feel so out of the choir, but to me those seem strange to them. Someone also told me that I'd do the children is part of the natural course of life! And this was one of the things that left me with more awe, for me only birth and death are part of the natural order of things, everything else in one way or another, are the choices we take every day.
I try to live my life more happy and fulfilling as possible. They failed to brief moments too.
They told me that he suffers from the famous "Peter Pan syndrome," because I do not want my mind to grow. But for me growing up does not mean deciding to have a wife and children.
I still have a tremendous and excessive desire to have fun! When I can not do it, life becomes boring, tedious, sad. I will not stop to amaze me the new things I see or I do, I will continue to laugh every now and feel the adrenaline coursing through veins, and I will continue to make plans. I took some risks for the choices I taken, and I would not be happy if I were forced to not being able to do more because I think first of all to my son. Yes, I'm selfish, but to a certain point, because I am aware, if not as much as they want, especially what you do not want to think much more intelligent and my way of thinking that gives birth to children who do not so much do! For me they are something very important and that's why I do not agree at all those who take this thing lightly (... and there are!).
still remain open for any eventuality because I do not know what my life will take me to do or who I will meet. Unfortunately they are very venial, and talking with my friends, I always told them economic position than if I had a wealthy, most likely things would be different xchè I could do everything with much more confidence. My fear is always that of having to give up too much, because there are too many things that I still do. Sure enough I take the jerk when I say this, but it is one thing to struggle to make ends meet when you're two adults, another is when there are children of the middle ... ... ...
In conclusion there is no x me a real conclusion!
Because I think the best way to live your life, is to follow their aspirations, their vocations, and try to do everything possible to achieve them. Me? Not sure yet ....
Ennerik